Is the kid who's flirting okay?How to respond to a toddler's anger attack '7'
Sep 03, 2024
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If his son wants something, but he doesn't listen, he lies on the floor no matter where he is, screaming and crying. Even if my dad and mom stop me, they don't listen at all, and they even throw things at my dad and mom. He doesn't hesitate to hit his forehead to the floor. Kang, who was deeply troubled, was surprised to hear from his acquaintances that it might be a `infant rage attack' and took his son to the hospital.
From Professor Shin Ji-yoon, a pediatric psychiatrist in the Department of Psychiatry at Eulji University Hospital in Uijeongbu, we will hear about the "infant anger attack".
◇ Infants' anger, is it normal?
Infants' anger attacks are generally normal behaviors common in the development process between the ages of 18 months and 4 years old, and refer to explosive reactions expressed as anger when a child's desire to do what he or she wants is blocked by external control.
They show somewhat radical behaviors such as rolling around on the floor or crying, throwing objects or kicking them, but the duration varies depending on the infant's personality and situation. In some cases, excitement persists, causing respiratory arrest. Parents can only be embarrassed by their children's behavior. Anger attacks are considered to be a temporary normal reaction caused by immature mental development, and causes can be a moderate deterrence of desire, frustration, lack of sleep, poor condition, fatigue, and hungry conditions. Exceptionally, there are cases due to developmental disorders or abnormal brain disorders.
◇Keep calm, soft, and firm
What is the appropriate way for parents to cope with their children's anger attacks. The answer begins with parents understanding the meaning of infant anger attacks and modifying their parents' responses to unintentionally persist or strengthen anger attacks.
During this period, infants are likely to show anger when their patience is reduced due to boredom, tiredness, hunger, and disease. In this case, parents should show appropriate help and emotional support rather than being frightened or yelling.
Sometimes anger attacks are violent or aggressive enough to risk physical damage, and in this case, it is more effective for parents to hold their child tightly in their arms and wait to calm down while protecting them from injury. Care should be taken because parents are embarrassed by the child's strong response, lose consistency, listen to the requirements, or hurry to appease them, further strengthen their anger attacks.
Professor Shin Ji-yoon said, `It can be seen that most infant anger attacks occur in the psychological part, not in the disease, and at the same time, it can affect the social and emotional development of infants while putting great stress on parents and caregivers.' `We should not forget that the role of parents is very important, such as taking appropriate measures with a firm attitude instead of panicking at this time.'
※How to respond to infant anger attacks
1. Parents must have been very angry because it is very important to understand and acknowledge the emotions of infants. You have to acknowledge your child's feelings by saying things like "I understand you don't feel good."
2. Parents should make eye contact with infants, speak softly and take actions that give them a sense of security. Delivering a sense of stability by hugging is effective and should always be recognized as a supportive being.
3. Parents should always set an example for their children, so even when they are angry, they should develop the habit of speaking rationally instead of expressing them immediately.
4. Parents can help prevent anger attacks in unexpected situations by providing schedules and rules to infants, giving them time in advance and helping them move on to the next activity. This helps infants to reduce anxiety about unexpected changes and prevent anger attacks.
5. When an anger attack occurs, it provides infants with other alternatives to help them shift their attention. For example, if you have an anger attack, you should ask to play with your favorite toy or suggest other alternative actions, such as drawing and dancing, to help infants control their emotions.
6. Parents teach infants how to breathe deeply, count, and calm down in problem situations by teaching them self-regulation skills and activities to develop problem-solving skills. It is effective in controlling anger and can help you judge rationally.
7. Parents can understand their child's feelings, but they have to take a firm attitude toward poor expression, which can worsen the child's anger. If seizures continue to occur after the age of 3 to 4, seizures of more than 15 minutes occur several times a day, or if the risk of self-harm and other harm is high, it may be effective to consult an expert to find a necessary solution.
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