Bae Do-hwan, why is it difficult to get married.."Oh Eun-young's ideal type, but I want you, Lee Young-ae." (Gold counseling center)
Aug 29, 2024
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Channel A 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which is scheduled to air at 8:10 p.m. today (29th), will be visited by Bae Do-hwan, an elderly bachelor actor who was loved for his licorice acting, and his mother, Han Woong-ja, a mother and a mother.
Bae Do-hwan, who once suffered from a marriage failure, draws attention by telling the recent news that he has been on numerous blind dates to find a life partner, but has failed repeatedly. When the family members of the counseling center asked about Bae's ideal type, Bae pointed out Dr. Oh Eun-young as his ideal type, saying, "I like soft and smiling people," but he revealed that he wanted Lee Young-ae, who has a good personality and understanding.
On this day, Bae Do-hwan's mother, Han Woong-ja, expresses her concern that "My wish is for my 60th birthday son to get married before I die." Then "I'm the only son, and I hope to get married within this year."While he was worried about his old bachelor son, he expressed his firm conviction and will for Bae Do-hwan's marriage, saying, "I never dreamed that my son would not be able to get married." However, Bae Do-hwan says "I hate my mother's nagging me to marry her," drawing attention to the mother's conflict.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who confirmed the mother and son's concerns, explains that the generation of 83-year-old mother Han Woong-ja thinks that their children's marriage is the homework of their lives, and that they consider it their mission and role. Bae Do-hwan, who was listening to this, said "Even at 2 a.m., he wakes me up and nags me to marry him" and sticks his tongue to the nagging of his mother, Han Ung-ja, who has never tried. However, it is rumored that even Dr. Oh Eun-young was embarrassed by the mother Han Woong-ja's nagging so much that she could not proceed with counseling regardless of her son's complaints.
In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young watches a video of the mother's daily life, saying, "We need to check what it is like in everyday life while watching the mother and son bickering." In the video, mother Han Woong-ja comes to Bae Do-hwan's room, where she focuses on her work, and continues to nag about getting married after mentioning the bride eight times, saying, "Clean up, if it's messy, the bride doesn't come, if it's clean, she likes it." In response, Bae Do-hwan tried to stop nagging by saying, `I'm also 60 years old, so I'll take care of it, I don't want to be angry with my mom.' But then he kept saying, `Marry me!' shows that no further conversation continues to the mother's rant.
In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzes that "83-year-old mother Han Woong-ja uses the 'Dodolji Dialogue Method' that eventually returns to the same word."" Then "As we get older, the brain responsible for reproducing information becomes rigid, which leads to repeated withdrawal of only the same information and difficulty in changing one's mind."He added that he wants to understand his mother Han Woong-ja's heart. However, he points out that his mother Han Woong-ja's conversation method is not effective because repeated nagging is discarded in the brain. Dr. Oh Eun-young is said to have relieved Bae Do-hwan's frustration by suggesting a special solution to stop his mother Han Woong-ja's nagging.
Meanwhile, Dr. Oh Eun-young watches a video of Bae's blind date to find out what kind of effort he makes to get married and how he expresses his affection for the opposite sex. Bae Do-hwan makes even the counseling center's family excited with his friendly appearance by exchanging jokes with his blind date and reading his palm. However, the pink atmosphere was also briefly seen, and Bae Do-hwan's expression became more and more solid with TMI from soccer to ex-lover, and the appearance of a close blind date continued, such as not ordering coffee for more than an hour.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was watching Bae Do-hwan closely, analyzed that he did not notice even though the other party gave him many non-verbal and verbal signs. Dr. Eun-young Oh said, "To start a relationship, the shares of the conversation must be similar.", pointing out Bae Do-hwan's runaway TMI conversation. The reason why Bae Do-hwan constantly talks is because of 'tense', and he speculates that he seems to be unable to stop talking for fear of awkwardness. In addition, it is pointed out that they take the lead in the conversation and preemptively attack it because they are afraid of revealing their weaknesses or wounds.
Then, Bae Do-hwan, who said he had such a side since he was a child, hesitates for a moment and confesses the wounds he has hidden. He brought his female friend home, who had been best friends since he was a child in high school, and his father, who misunderstood their relationship, got angry and slapped him. Since then, he says that he seems to have started to panic when standing in front of a woman. In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young speculates that she felt insulted by her father's baseless anger and assault and was ashamed of herself for failing to explain, which could reduce her sense of efficacy as a man when she starts a rational relationship. There is also an event that has a profound effect on a person's life, even just once" comforts Bae Do-hwan, whose pain has not recovered. He then advises that if you explain the trauma at the time when you meet a likeable person, you will be able to reduce misunderstanding. On this day, Dr. Oh Eun-young reportedly hugged Bae Do-hwan, who was in conflict with his marriage nagging, and Bae Do-hwan, who was having a hard time in his relationship with the opposite sex, as well as solving the problems of his mother and son Han Woong-ja.
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