First daughter's secret that everyone is uncomfortable with...20 years of homework, Oh Eun-young noticed at once (marriage hell)

Jan 14, 2025

 First daughter's secret that everyone is uncomfortable with...20 years of homework, Oh Eun-young noticed at once (marriage hell)



"First daughter with thorns on her horse" has led to a situation in which the whole family is wary.

MBC 'Oh Eun-young Report Marriage Hell', which aired at 10:45 p.m. on the 13th, revealed the story of the second four-part family counseling special episode, 'The Ugly Duck Family'.

The mother and daughter were the main characters of the ugly duck family story. The first daughter, who applied for the story, said she wanted to find a way to talk comfortably with her mother, revealing the reason for applying for the story. The first daughter feels despair for her family members who do not understand her wounds. I was even thinking that ' (my family) would be happy without me due to 20 years of unresolved conflict. However, the mother said, `My first daughter has a day only in my family," he said, expressing his concern. A mother who lived half of her life looking at her first daughter. I was tired of my daughter, who has not changed no matter how hard I try for 20 years, and now I have been close to giving up, saying I don't want to see her.




The mother and daughter's daily lives began in front of their respective computers. First daughter who plays games with her mom looking into stock charts and communicates with people. Mother and daughter are in the same house, but they spent time in separate rooms. At lunchtime, the mother and daughter decided on a menu to eat together. By the way, it's awkward for a mother and daughter to have small daily conversations. The conversation between the first daughter and the person I met in the game felt more natural.

First daughter trying to help her mom cook lunch. My mom asked me what I could do for her, but she refused, telling me to just play the game. Afterwards, the mother laughed and continued the conversation with her first daughter, who was choosing a video to watch together while eating. But "Why are you talking so sarcastically?The first daughter said in a sharp tone. At the words of their daughter, the atmosphere between the two fell sharply cold.

The first daughter brings her own tart and eats it after the meal. My mother, who watched this, also took a plate of tart. Then, when the mother told her to share her daughter's tart for free, the first daughter's expression suddenly darkened. Afterwards, the mother took the tart and didn't eat it and came back. In response, the first daughter said, "Why did you take it with you when you weren't even going to eat it?" again. The mother reluctantly apologized to her first daughter in a cold atmosphere again, expressing regret at the mother's behavior of not eating the tart. The case seems to have been closed with the mother's apology, but the mother confessed that "Sometimes I talk comfortably with my first daughter, but depending on how she feels, she tends to get into a fight and watch her face." The MCs also seem to be a little sensitive to the appearance of the first daughter who keeps talking in an angry tone", "There is a thorn in the horse."I felt sorry for him.




However, Dr. Oh Eun-young said "The first daughter tries to stay with her. I confirmed that I really like my momHe surprised everyone by saying ." Dr. Oh Eun-young then said that the child is trying to be next to the mother to be loved, and that being loved is for the child to survive. In addition, despite being 27 years old, the first daughter's attempt to be next to her mother is something that was not filled in her childhood, and she emphasized that she should find the hole. In addition, Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed the propensity of mother and daughter who were uncomfortable with each other. The first daughter explained that the heart and intention behind the words were very important, and the first daughter's intention was to help her mother. However, the mother explained that she unintentionally denied her daughter's intentions with a tendency to value solution-oriented and efficiency, and that the two kept bumping into each other. The daughter then emphasized that her intention to help her mother was rejected and her mind was denied, but she did not notice it and continued to experience the same conflict in her daily life.

The next day, the second daughter, who lives independently in Daejeon, visited her house. The mother's expression brightened as soon as she saw her second daughter and the first daughter's expression hardened as she looked at it. The first daughter confessed that her younger brother was uncomfortable, saying, `He has an inferiority complex.'

Meanwhile, the first daughter who writes a letter of introduction in her room. She said, "In the past, I worked as a social worker for about a year and a half, but I decided to quit because I thought I needed to take care of her." The first daughter is trying to write a letter of self-introduction to prepare for a job again, but hesitates to write and erase repeatedly. In response, the younger brother gave advice, saying, `Just use it first and leave it to be corrected.' However, the first daughter reacted sharply to her younger sister's words, saying she did not know what to write on the cover letter, and the second daughter, who approached her to help her sister, eventually apologized for her sensitive reaction. The first daughter was even more difficult because she felt like she had to reveal a secret to use the reason she was interested in the job as a social worker.




What the first daughter wanted to hide was 'depression', which she had suffered for a long time. I was diagnosed with childhood depression in elementary school, and since then, I have received various psychological treatments such as art therapy and counseling therapy, and I have tried to treat it by moving hospitals countless times. However, the first daughter did not feel the essential problem was solved. If you tell your family about your difficulties, including your concerns about your cover letter, "Why can't you make a decision? Just do it!"It's frustrating because he told me to bump into him."

In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young explained in more detail the reason why her first daughter could not write a letter of self-introduction. The first daughter said there are too many conflicts in expressing herself at the moment. Confusion and conflict about 'I' are great, and 'Am I worthy of love?He analyzed that he could not write a letter of self-introduction because he was denying himself with the thought of '. In addition, Dr. Oh Eun-young explained to her mother that her first daughter would have been more difficult because of her tendency to focus on solutions and her lack of understanding and communication.

On the other hand, in the released daily video, the rest of the family members who seemed harmonious when their first daughter was not present were seen. In addition, the younger brother confessed that it was difficult to even try because he was so angry when talking to his sister, and the mother even said that sometimes she felt so tired that she wanted to stay away from her first daughter. Not only the mother but also the family was a hateful duck family who was getting tired, but even the MCs were in tears when they acknowledged and apologized for each other's poor parts after the consultation. In addition, viewers who watched 'It's like our family' sympathized with each other, and warm reviews poured in, saying they were comforted. Rumor has it that viewers were also moved by the scene in which the mother and daughter hugged each other and shed tears in their own space saying 'I love you'.



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