"I gave birth because I failed to get an abortion." My mother tried to kill herself..Oh Eun-young's advice on "emotion" (marriage hell)
Jan 07, 2025
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MBC's Oh Eun-young Report, which aired yesterday (6th)? Marriage Hell> was held for four weeks as a family counseling special for the new year of 2025. Family issues that are always linked to marital counseling! Hundreds of stories have arrived in the family counseling notice over the past three months. As the first protagonist, his son, who said his childhood past was all dark, and his mother, who said she doesn't remember any of the past like a blank sheet, appeared. The son said what he heard from his mother in the past bothers him until he turned 34. A son who always lives in tension due to trauma and avoids relationships with people. When I'm with my mom, not only is it negative for my life, but I also feel fear. I was afraid to face my mom to the point that even a pre-meeting was canceled by the production team's notice that she was with her... However, the mother claimed that she did not remember her son's harsh words in the past, and that she raised her child alone after the divorce and cared more than others and did her best. The son was not only talented in many fields, but he was especially good at studying, so he maintained his top grades without private education, raising his mother's shoulders. Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was closely watching his son's behavior, said his son's depression index is the highest among the cast members he has seen for two years.." When talking about reminiscence about the past, his son keeps showing restlessness and is nervous even with light jokes. The mother who said she doesn't remember what she said and the son who suffered from her mother's rude talk all his life. Can the two narrow their differences?
▶ "You're a life failure." She even blocked her contact information due to her mother's continuous verbal abuse. His son has been out of touch for nine months.
The son is living alone in Seoul after living independently from his mother's house after the age of 20. My son, who works as a health trainer for six years, said he rarely goes outside except during working hours. On the day of the daily observation shoot, my son returned home as soon as he got home from work. However, there was a question at his son's house. As soon as it arrived, the light was not turned on, and the only window where the light came in was covered with blackout stickers. As if to represent his son's heart, the house was achromatic and there was no sunlight. His son spends time watching dramas sitting in front of a computer monitor as if he is familiar with it. However, when there is a scene of family conversation in the drama, his expression suddenly hardens. In the end, the son sobbing with his head down. In the conversation of my family in the drama, I think I thought of my mom, and I was out of breath, and it was hard to control my emotions..
The son said he had been listening to his mother's harsh criticism since the fourth grade of elementary school. In my mother's diary, which I happened to see, I was very shocked to see the words "." The son claimed that his mother often spoke rudely to him when she was having a hard time. Still, the son said he tried hard to be better to his mother. However, on the day of the College Scholastic Ability Test. After her mother poured out abusive language, she began to keep away from her. The son said he wanted to study hard and relieve his mother's worries because he knew her mother's hard work to raise him alone from a young age. However, on the day of the college entrance exam, maybe because of the pressure, he didn't perform as well as usual. The son said he was sorry first because he seems to have failed his mother's expectations rather than disappointed himself. But the mother is not shy to see her relatives because of you. Go out and get hit by a car." he said. The MCs responded that they couldn't believe the shocking remarks. The son said he even blocked his mother's contact information due to repeated verbal abuse. But my mom, who was listening to my son's story, said she didn't remember the day of the college entrance exam either. Dr. Oh Eun-young explained that much of her son's wounds were her mother's rude talk. Although it hurts so much because of this wound, the son lived his life tailored to his mother because he loved her more. He explained that he would have thought of becoming a better son because he knew his mother's hard life.
For such a son, the College Scholastic Ability Test would have served as a day to prove his existence in order to be recognized as a useful and valuable person. From the standpoint of his son, who was in pain enough to want to die because of the verbal abuse, he said that if his mother kept saying that he couldn't remember, he might have thought it was a problem that he didn't take it seriously.
▶ Two people sitting face to face and talking for the first time in 9 months. But the son who suddenly left home due to his mother's OO?
The son decided to meet his mother and talk to her after 9 months at the recommendation of his cousin. The mother, who always looked dark, smiled brightly at the news that her son was coming home for the first time. However, as soon as he arrived, his son entered his room as if he did not recognize his mother's feelings. I prepared a feast for my son's visit after a long time, but he refused to eat. In the end, the son can't beat his mother's desperate request. I secretly wiped away tears and prepared the meal because of the complex and subtle feelings that were both happy and sad. The mother talks to her son first to resolve the awkward atmosphere, saying she wants to restore her relationship with her son even now. "Think of only what you're happy about first.The mother's words suddenly changed the son's expression coldly. The son said he was sad to his mother, recalling the past when he was not happy.
A mother who suggested her son go on a trip with her to be close to her remarried stepfather. My son's daily life was difficult due to depression, but he accepted the trip because of his mother's constant demand. But son who said he wanted to eventually cancel the trip due to ongoing friction while preparing for the trip. Then, the mother said to her son as if she were shooting him back and even mentioned the cost of canceling the accommodation. When friction with her mother began over the travel issue, the wounds of the past came to mind and even extreme thoughts were made. I even told my mom that I went to the Han River Bridge and tried to put my extreme thoughts into practice, but her reaction was only cold. Desperate, "Is 1 million won more wasteful than my life to cancel the accommodation?!The son who asked ". Thereby 'Yes.' said he once again felt hopeless by his mother's answer. Mom said she thought she was intimidated by the sudden talk of life. The mother constantly expresses her disappointment at her son who doesn't know how scared he must have been. I said I felt that the contact of my son, who said he wanted to die on the Han River bridge, was bothering my mother herself. The more we talk, the more distant they become. Eventually, the conversation in nine months ended in catastrophe, and the son once again despaired.
an ambitious dawn at which everyone sleeps. The son found his mother's handwritten letter. Mom reaches out again. But when he read his mother's letter, his son starts crying in the dark. "Is this an apple?He left home at 2 a.m. with all his luggage, leaving only the words ". What made him run out. The son had the courage to come to his parents' house in nine months to make up with his mother, but "Mom is the first time, so please understand.When he saw the phrase ," he said that he felt like he was finally handing over the responsibility to himself because only his mother's position was written, not an apology. Dr. Oh Eun-young emphasizes the legitimacy of her mother by saying that she was the first.It was analyzed that he must have felt '. The phrase 'Mental independence, health protection' on the back of the letter must have felt more like a demand for his son than a word of concern. I understand the emphasis on justification for raising my son hard alone, but he advised that it is more important to know the wounds inside and empathize with his feelings than justification in relationships with his son. At the end of the interview "I want to cut off contact, but in fact, I can't without my mother.", said the son, who expressed his honest feelings. I hated my mom, but I was worried that she might be criticized for the broadcast. Mom also feels sorry that her son is having a hard time because of herself.. As a result, Dr. Oh Eun-young and MCs were moved by the sincerity of the mother and son that touched each other and shed hot tears.
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